Sometimes we choose to be alone, but other times we have no choice. Many people are afraid of loneliness, and feel this feeling of emptiness.

Loneliness is not something negative as long as it does not hurt us and we manage to take advantage of it to get to know ourselves better.

But what happens when loneliness almost becomes a person’s identity? I choose solitude and it makes me happy. Is it possible ? 

We often need the company of others. Having relationships, leaving home, meeting other people are characteristics that define us. If we don’t, we can often fall into anxiety and depression.

Today you are going to discover these people who choose loneliness, who are happy being alone and who are not afraid of it at all. Are you one of those people?

I choose to be alone

There are two very different types of loneliness. The first loneliness is isolating yourself from other people, and the second is feeling lonely. We choose the first but not the second.

Here we are not talking about the negative loneliness that hurts us, and makes us feel like something is missing.

This loneliness we are talking about is the loneliness that fills us, the positive loneliness that does not hurt because it is totally welcome and accepted. It’s a choice.

When I choose to be alone, I don’t feel alone. I live in a positive and constructive reality, in which we can reflect, get to know ourselves better, and enjoy what we want.

People who know how to live fully on their own tend to be more creative and read more. Why is this happening? Reading and creativity are activities that require concentration and calm.

What we call introspection is when a person is able to live a healthy loneliness, when he is able to look himself in the face and to know perfectly who he is looking at.

Introspection helps us to know ourselves better and this is excellent for health.

Knowing ourselves helps us in our relationships, and allows us to know how to react to specific situations. Learning more about ourselves is always positive.

Loneliness as something positive

According to several studies, lonely people tend to suffer from anxiety, social phobia, depression, fear and negative feelings that invade them all the time.

In a study that was published in the Journal of Cognitive Neuroscience, it is claimed that loneliness is an emotional problem that affects a large part of the population and causes serious health problems.

All of this shows that loneliness often refers to something negative. It is a conception that we must get rid of, because not all solitudes are negative since many of them are chosen. 

Do you know what positive traits people who choose loneliness have?

• They have great intuition. 
• They are not afraid to be alone, and therefore have no addiction problems.
• They are very creative.
• They know each other very well.
• They are great observers. 
• They have good friends, but they can often be counted on the fingers of one hand.

Despite what you might think, lonely people have friends, but not many. They give great value to the word “friendship” and know that not everyone can receive this label.

They are also very adventurous people who like to discover new places. There are few things that surprise them since they tend to see everything with a magnifying glass.

Forget the idea that loneliness is bad. As long as you choose it and you feel good with it, go for it! Trust your intention, your creativity, and your ability to observe.

Are you a lonely person? Maybe you’ve felt like a “weird animal” in other people’s eyes, but you might not know that a lot of people are like you and take advantage of their loneliness. Never feel bad because you are enjoying your loneliness.