Weekend Couples: A New Kind Of Relationship

We are not talking about those romantic getaways that are done as a couple on weekends and serve to disconnect. Neither of those relationships that are created for 48 hours and then disappear. No. We’re talking  about weekend couples, those who only see each other on Saturdays and Sundays. But does this “technique” of living like a permanent honeymoon really work?

Normally, the people who form these couples are at a high point in their professional career. They are usually between 25 and 35 years old and travel frequently. Since they don’t have time to dedicate to their partner on weekdays, they decide to see each other over the weekend.

The reward of a daily sacrifice

Many relationships are destroyed because of distance. Since passion and tenderness are not continuously nurtured, the miles end up triumphing over everything. But that wouldn’t be a problem for those relationships that keep their love burning, at least at the end of the week. They know these days are reserved for them. And they serve them as a reward for all these hard days of work.

In addition, these two people miss each other for several days and, on Saturday and Sunday, they therefore very much want to see each other. This lengthens the phase when they are in love. In other words, seeing each other less diligently makes them feel just like the first time when they meet again. It’s  like a permanent love at first sight that highlights the positive aspects of the relationship.

Another advantage is that since they have little time to share things, each of them gives the best of themselves during these precious moments. So they don’t waste time with absurd discussions. They avoid conflicts to make the most of the time available to them. This therefore allows the two members to focus on the qualities of the other and on what he brings to him.

Negatives are also abundant in weekend couples

We pointed out, a little earlier, how physical distance is one of the great challenges of any couple or marriage. Weekend couples can also be victims. The insecurity that is created with the absence of daily contact can generate doubts and jealousy towards the other. This, fed on a daily basis, can come to be a reason for breaking up or even infidelity.

Also, reliving that love every weekend does not mean that the relationship is moving forward. This way of seeing oneself can, on the contrary, cause it to stagnate. It is as if both members are comfortable with this situation and neither of them is looking to take a step forward.

It is a feeling of helplessness and conformity. This type of relationship can create a feeling of living in a spiral of frustration, impatience and boredom.

The longer a relationship is, the stronger it is

While quantity may not equate to quality, in this case it seems to be. The longer a couple lasts, the stronger their bonds and foundations will be. It is therefore less likely that a relationship will break down because of the distance when the two members have already spent a lot of time together.

For example, consider the case of a relationship of several years in which one of the members has to go to work temporarily in another country. The distance can, in this case, even more strengthen the bonds of union between them. She puts them to the test and, if all goes well, becomes one more pillar of this relationship.

On the contrary, if the relationship has only been built for a few months, there is a good chance that the commitment is not enough to make it last.

Do they know if they are compatible?

Weekend couples only cohabit for a few hours. On Saturday and Sunday, they share time, meals and their bed. But is this comparable to the daily life of a couple who live in the same house and have to face common responsibilities?

This type of sporadic meeting does not allow us to know how the other is carrying out household tasks. Or how he reacts when something bothers him, what his quirks are, what he likes to do when he comes home, how he cooks…  It’s a somewhat superficial relationship. The two members may glimpse some of these details, but they are not at all the same.

The secrets of success in a relationship

Either way, weekend couples are a reality. No one can determine the duration of a relationship based on how two people met or on the parameters of the latter. Only those in the relationship know what is going on in their life.

However, there are certain characteristics that are found in all working couples. For example,  admiration, mutual respect and the absence of co-dependence. In addition, the expectations of both must be realistic and based on one choice: to love the other.

Of course,  the basis must be communication and trust. Both people should be able to talk about everything and express their views, without fear of being judged or rejected. Couples go through precious and happy times, but when the hardest ones come, they need to be able to talk about things as they see them.

All of these characteristics can be perfectly present in weekend couples. You just have to be able to put on the table everything that one can bring to the other,  how he experiences this relationship, how the distance affects him and whether the situation makes him happy.

If you both agree, the relationship can be very healthy and lasting!

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