To Forgive, You Must First Forgive Yourself

Forgiving is something not everyone is prepared for.

But who is able to forgive others knows very well that feeling of freedom that invades him when he does so.

It is not only an act for the person who has offended us but also for ourselves.

It is necessary to be able to continue moving forward, so as not to drag the past like a burden and even sometimes to reestablish a dialogue that brings us answers to unresolved questions.

Questions that sometimes we can only resolve with the person we hold a grudge against.

But on the other hand, the pain is not produced by the other but by ourselves. We are the ones who pull the trigger on pain.

Whether it is deliberate or not, we bear the ultimate responsibility for our injuries and we must not blame others for what happened.

Forgive yourself for failing

When we ask for forgiveness, it is because we have deceived someone else or we have made such a big mistake that it affects others.

But why do you ask forgiveness without forgiving yourself first?

Over and over again, we leave in the hands of others many of the responsibilities that we should shoulder. Here, for example, the act of forgiving.

A much clearer example: to love. Isn’t it true that if we don’t love ourselves, we can’t love others? So it’s the same with forgiving.

Maybe you are wondering why no one has ever taught you this before, why no one has ever told you that you have to forgive yourself and then forgive others.

The reality is that we have always been taught to be “irresponsible” in some way with our actions.

It is for this reason that we allow ourselves to love others without loving ourselves first.

We want them to forgive us without our having forgiven ourselves before, we demand respect before respecting ourselves etc …

The fear of forgiving yourself

Maybe this mistake we fall into, the one that prevents us from forgiving ourselves, is only proof of our great fears: being aware of our weaknesses and the fact that we are not perfect.

It takes a lot of us to look inward and accept our mistakes. Maybe that’s why we prefer to look elsewhere.

Today we want to give you some tips so that you can forgive yourself without fear and so that the next time you have to ask for forgiveness, you think of yourself first.

Because it’s not selfish, in this case, to think of yourself first. You are the most important and therefore you must start by asking yourself for forgiveness.

• Why do you need to forgive yourself? You need to know if you really have to forgive yourself because sometimes we feel guilty when we are not.
  Once you are sure you are guilty, you need to forgive yourself. But how ?

• Failure doesn’t make you a bad person: we all make mistakes and it doesn’t make us horrible.
  So we have to accept our flaws, learn from them and forgive ourselves. We are human beings and we are wrong. It’s normal !
• Start Over: Sometimes we are afraid to start over, but maybe this is the first step after forgiveness.
  Think that forgiving yourself is learning, it is rectifying, it is realizing where we went wrong. From there, you can start a new life.
• Forget the past : maybe you are tormented by these mistakes you made and they are still present today.
  Do not torture yourself with it. Forgive yourself! Use all of these stones in your path to be a better person.

• Be responsible for your actions: Sometimes asking for forgiveness is an irresponsible act because we want to free ourselves from a load too easily.
  But if you forgive yourself beforehand, it’s not that easy anymore. Be responsible for your mistakes because you are the person who made them!

Now you can forgive others

Now that you know what you need to do to forgive yourself before others, you can forgive. And know that you must always move forward.

Today forgiveness is something that is said lightly. Something that shows our irresponsibility towards our actions.

It is important that you are compassionate to yourself. We all fail at some point in our lives and we all need someone else’s forgiveness at some point.

But, don’t turn that into something recurring. Forgiveness must be sincere.

Also, think that asking yourself for forgiveness will help you get to know yourself better.

You will be aware of your flaws and you will be able to provide them with a solution, you will be able to develop better self-confidence and you will value yourself much more!

Do you ask forgiveness before asking forgiveness of yourself? When was the last time you forgave yourself?

We hope that from now on you will practice this forgiveness for yourself.

It is an action which will enrich you and which will allow you, then, to say forgiveness in a much more sincere and authentic way.