To Be Oneself And Not To Be For Others
“If at our desires, we take away those who belong to others, we will sink into the insignificance of numbers. The same would happen with our fears… even with ourselves ”
In the world we live in, we are constantly assaulted by a communicative overexposure of movement and ‘ systematic exaltation of ego.
All people want to have big theories about things, any act of kindness or logical selflessness is reflected in social media or on a website, as if kindness and a civic attitude should be publicly acknowledged, as if an action with these characteristics could not be of the private domain, as individual enjoyment for the one who is the author.
Many professionals in sport, politics and art are showing an increasing interest in what is known as “charisma”, “follower maker” or simply “person from the public sphere”.
A few centuries ago, among the Greeks, the desire for immortality arose as the performance of a heroic deed that could stand the test of time.
But they were interested in the action itself, and the ego was not fed until its value was recognized as legitimate for the development of an intellectual or strategic activity that it deserved.
Today, people are interested in public recognition of their thoughts, actions or the most normal processes of human life (the most spectacular marriage, the most loving motherhood) and a showcase of friends and family. followers.
“It’s time to appear to be, not to be for oneself”
Happiness, they say it is not real if it is shared, but it is more and more shared with other people.
And oddly enough, it seems that we are moving away from two-to-two relationships, enjoying company and good conversation in which no act of heroism is cited, but where we exchange a warm intimacy, with the secrets of the heart, a delicious intimacy that can only be shared with certain people.
Some people are overwhelmed by all this false showcase of appearances, by saying the words that others want to hear. Therefore, they opt for a disaffected art: that of insignificance.
This is not about forced insignificance, but some people reach a point in their life where they are tired of impressing and being impressed, and really want to share.
They choose to inform themselves by themselves, cultivating the small daily details that cause them satisfaction, without anxiety or without the desire to be in another place and another time.
They want to learn, they want to read, they want to see films that are not recommended over and over again, they want to have their own habits full of finesse and strength.
They care about being, not about appearing
Usually these are people we don’t meet often, but when we are with them we don’t need to share the experience, because the experience is so intense that there is no time or time. ‘interest in showing it to others. The gallery does not seem attractive to them.
These people like to listen and think. The pleasure of insignificance is already in literature with the great writer Milan Kundera, who has given us many literary wonders.
Once again, the author calls for calm, for the lightness of being, even to the resolution of the most complex problems.
Recommended reading for anyone overwhelmed by so much information, especially such irrelevant information in their lives.
Perhaps you will be just a few, but you will find more calm and pleasure if there is something private about your life, and your person has not completely lost its essence with so much insistence on contemplating it. ego of others.
Keep certain things to yourself, perhaps when this relationship between you and you, which you hope so much, will no longer have any magic, no more mystery, because you will have already offered everything to others and you will have nothing more. to really share.
