There Are Loves That Are Like An Egg Without Salt

There are loves which are like an egg without salt, tasteless loves without substance which are anchored in a monotonous situation which, in the long run, suffocates them. A reality that affects many couples, although they may have accepted it as a usual situation, something that “has to happen”.

We can change that, whenever we want. Recover this spring which nourished our love and move away from this autumn which is getting closer and closer to winter. Tenderness does not age, unlike us. If she does, it’s because we allow her to do it. We may be tired of maintaining it, of cultivating it.

“The emotional impulse must be in constant action so as not to die. “

-Walter Riso-

We make the mistake of leaving hugs, hugs and sweet talk in a chest that is now a thing of the past. Before, it was important for us to show the person we still love how much we felt for them. When did we stop repeating to him and when did we fall into the simple comfort of guessing?

Tasteless loves, aged loves

We have very often been able to listen as love ends, dies and changes over time…  We put the blame on the passage of time to feel better with ourselves and not to take responsibility for the fact that we do not. well things.

It’s not just about surrendering yourself:  we’re also putting aside what we put so much effort into and put so much passion into a few years ago. Now, since we have it, do we stop trying? First it was one, then the other. In the end, we turned into two people who allowed their love to fade away and now reside in a simple memory.

It is at this moment that the assumptions arise, which we have already mentioned. The ones that cause so much confusion in our interpersonal relationships. But they are even more formidable in couple relationships. It is better to repeat things and be tired of always saying the same thing than to take for granted what may not be so.

“Why should I tell my husband / wife that I love him if they already know it”, “there is no need to kiss him, he knows I want him”, “we are too old / old to cuddle us in public ”… These sentences, which have the form of thoughts, are surely familiar to you. Many couples experience this.

There are couples who do not feel anything, do not suffer, who are superficial and only guided by monotony.

However,  in the past, you didn’t mind saying “I love you” endless times to the love of your life. You always kissed him when he left for work. You weren’t wondering if it was appropriate to give him a hand or hug him without telling him. It came from you, you wanted to feel close to your companion. You wanted to show him, over and over again, how you felt about him.

We let love die

The flame does not go out, we extinguish it ourselves. We can continue to revive it by escaping this situation to which we have become accustomed. All this because we have become lazy to repeat to our other half what we kept telling them in the past. Tired of putting effort into what we take for granted.

Many people give everything at the start of a relationship. They are like an inflated balloon. Even so, once they get what they want, they gradually deflate, until there is nothing left of everything they had achieved. By doing this, you still wonder why you don’t have as much privacy as before, why everything has changed?

Loves succumb because of our bad attitudes. We stop thinking about the other person and focus on ourselves. We justify ourselves by saying “he already knows it”, which proves our inability to continue to give everything.

I know the love is there, but in a silent way, hardly present. A timid love, perhaps, which sometimes makes me doubt.

The relationship does not turn on its own, it is not self-sufficient. It needs to be constantly nurtured, day in and day out, with more care over time because there are also more circumstances that threaten to wear it down. You look with envy at all these old people who walk hand in hand, who respect each other, who do not hide their tenderness in public and you wonder … How did they do it? By taking care and listening to this feeling so sincere, so sought after, so hoped for that is love.

A mutual feeling that does not include repetitions and rational reflections. Love weakens the moment we assume, think, and believe. It must be free in order to be able to be felt and to be able to live it in all its splendor. He does not know boredom, we abandon him ourselves. It never gets tasteless, we ourselves make it way too simple.

Loves hold if the hands that support them are sure and willing to give everything, today, tomorrow, to infinity … No matter the number of years. Only attitude matters.

Images by Jarek Puczel