The Attitude Is Contagious: Surround Yourself With People Who Bring Out The Best In You

If attitude is the most important thing we have,  then be careful that no one strips your words and calls your strengths and hopes as impossible. Do not let anyone unbutton your aspirations by making you believe that: “You are worthless, you cannot or you do not deserve.” Our attitude is a very large percentage of the ability to influence what happens to us, so don’t do it, don’t allow your best assets to be stolen from you.

In the many self-help books that we find today, there is something that catches the eye: we always try to steer us towards success, towards that external triumph thanks to which sooner or later we will be recognized by others for our courage, for our aptitudes and for our capacities. Now we have to qualify: more than “external success”, what we want to achieve is calm.

“A happy person does not have a specific set of circumstances, but a set of attitudes.”

-Hugh Downs-

Skills, of course, do things because showing that we can do a particular task is very rewarding. But, what gives added value are the attitudes because they are the ones that make the difference between a good day and a bad day. They are the ones who bring us optimism when everything is going against us, it is they who allow us to believe in ourselves when others dare to minimize us.

“Yes I’m worth something, yes I know how to do it and yes I deserve it” are undoubtedly the three roots that must nourish our daily attitude, those with which we have breakfast every morning with our coffee and our toast. However, there are times when the negative, defeatist or even toxic mentality of some people around us can undoubtedly undermine this golden approach to the point of disturbing it considerably.

Your attitude: a personal decision

The editorial offer of books of happiness and personal growth doubles every year. However, the WHO warns us that in a short time depression will be the number one health and disability problem worldwide. Likewise, we educate our children to be competent in science, mathematics, technology and even programming language, but we forget to teach them to tolerate frustration, to manage their emotional worlds, their anger, their sadness. …

No one explains to us what attitudes are or how to “believe in yourself”. We do not know because the only thing we are taught at school is to know how to identify the subject and the object of a sentence, the common denominator of a multiplication or to believe that ‘it is enough to be good-natured, respectful and to have good grades for happiness to appear on its own, like the promise of a contract that we sign at a very young age.

However, sooner or later we find that our good intentions are not enough for success to come. We realize that if someone does not believe in us, we will go out like a candle defeated by a cold wind.

We also perceive that society gives us a good education, but postpones our opportunities by subjecting them to a waiting room where nothing ever happens. And there, we snuggle up against those who are already waiting, other people who transmit to us their bruised hopes, their defeatism, their empty self-esteem.

Sooner or later we realize that we are “sick”, infected with discouragement and passivity, covered with a mind that has let itself be carried away by the autopilot of the negativity of others.

In the end, we feel that the attitude is nothing more than a personal decision, the one that tears us from our sterile and desolate gardens where nothing grows, to remind us that we do not deserve to be there, that we have to muster our courage and energy to achieve what we really need.

The three components of the strong and courageous attitude

It is often said that a positive attitude will not solve all of our problems, but it will annoy more than one person, those who, with their obtuse mindset and doubtful approach, do nothing but stick their necks out. wheels of our dreams and roar the storm on our sunny days.

“Attitudes are contagious. Is it worth it to be contaminated with yours? ”

-Dennis and Wendy Mannering-

Either way, what we need to know is that attitude is a personal value that needs to be worked on on a daily basis. Because when we least expect it, it can falter or even worse, it can be weakened by the harmful influence of these third parties.

So, it is never too much to remember that three components fuel, shape and nurture strong attitudes:

• Commitment: A good attitude requires a firm commitment to ourselves and our goals, to the goals and values ​​that are precious to us.
• Self-control: to achieve a dream, to achieve this precious goal, we must accept control over our own reality, over everything that happens. If we are wrong, we have an obligation to make it right. One should not shift the responsibility onto others but always accept it with an active, positive and courageous attitude.

The last link that forms the chain of our attitudes is the challenge. This is an aspect that should not be neglected because life will impose ten, one hundred, two hundred daily challenges on us… We must see these tests as challenges from which to learn in order to invest in our personal growth, in our “crew” of life, thanks to which we feel like the real protagonists of the well-being achieved.

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