Learn To Find Yourself And Heal The Child In You

Becoming an adult doesn’t just mean accumulating years,  seeing a wrinkle on our face, or getting certain things.

Growing up means knowing how to mature over time, while keeping the positive side of each stage lived and each cycle of our existence.

However, it is not always easy to mature in harmony and happiness. There are times when our adult selves feel frustrated and full of unresolved conflicts that grab and drown us, that cause us to become taciturn creatures who have lost that daily hope for things, as well as the trust in the people who surround us and within ourselves.

When it comes time to talk about “the child in us”, it is possible that many people smile, and do not understand its meaning.

Sometimes we associate childhood with this period of negative blindness where we do not quite understand what this world or this entity, called life, means.

We allow children this touch of madness and spontaneity because quite simply, “they don’t know yet”.

However, it is possible that they know much more than we do, and that they have values ​​that we have lost.

It is also said that we all have an inner child within us, and that even so, he continues to be the one who allows us to achieve a balance between the rational part and the other more free and hopeful part, which continues to claim love.

The voice of the child in us

Believe it or not, the child in us has not left to make way for the serious adult that we are now.

It still resides within us, even though it is often obscured and repressed because we cannot allow it to express itself.

The child in us requires things that we do not always know how to listen to: 

– He asks you not to give so much importance to things, to relativize the problems, to stop being sad and to draw a happy face able to go out for a walk freely.

-The child who is in you asks you to love him and take care of him. He asks for love  and for you to be able to give him love.

He wants to be hugged, pampered, cared for and wants to become the point of attention of our life. It’s called self-esteem.

-Sometimes he asks you not to be too demanding with yourself, he asks you to relax, not to focus on the simple things that are in your surroundings and to value the basic things like the small joys.

He asks you to play and experiment. Above all, he tells you not to lose the hope of life and your self-confidence. He wants you to be spontaneous and to “dare”.

However, there is one vital aspect that should not be overlooked. It is possible that in your childhood you weren’t really happy, that you kept in your interior too many wounds, voids and mentions, and that in reality you never really managed to be a child. .

Circumstances may have forced you to grow up violently, without taking advantage of the dimensions that are meant to nurture a child, such as love, gratitude, the emotional bond of tenderness, support, etc.

All this means that we grow up with insecurity, with a lack of self-confidence and with these fears transmitted to us by this child that we have never been able to be.

What can we do in this case? We will explain it to you in the rest of this article.

Find and heal the child in us

It is often said that the one who lives from creation, from art, the one who knows how to live with the minimum and understands the value of smiles without reason, has never lost the link with the child who is in him.

It is possible that he is sometimes passed off as crazy, because of his spontaneity, or his eccentricity.

However, maintaining this umbilical cord with the child who is us can be a rewarding experience capable of healing many emotional wounds, and boosting self-esteem.

How can we unite and heal the child in us? Take note. 

1. Visualize yourself as a child. Take a photo of yourself, if you need to. It is an easy exercise, which allows you to make you think, an act of introspection towards your essence of yesterday, where still hides this child that you were.

2. Think about this picture. Pick a time in your memory when you were 7 or 8 years old. Ask yourself if you are still like this? Do you see that child hugging his parents? This love matters!

You have to bring serenity to this memory, to this balance where resentment is found, so that it can allow you to live in peace.

3. Continue your personal visualization and now establish a dialogue with this child.

You need to form a strong union with him, ask him what he needs to be happy again, and listen to his words and prayers.

You have to convince him that you are going to take more care of him, that you are going to listen to him, to love him, to evolve by finding hope, by relativizing the problems, by laughing, by being purer and not repressed, with such futile needs.

Take it by the hand, squeeze it tight, and never let it escape again.