Imprisoned Emotions
“Each of us is his own weather and determines the color of the sky in the emotional universe in which he lives”.
(Fulton J. Sheen)
At times in our life, we may feel emotionally blocked and not knowing how to express what we are feeling.
We may even be unable to identify our state of mind and perceive it as a ghost of indeterminate form.
For different reasons, at certain times in our life, our emotions get trapped. As if they were in a cage, that they did not want to go out, and that they generated great discomfort in our interior, influencing both our body and our relationships with others.
Has this ever happened to you?
Think about it for a moment …
Maybe for months you wandered around in sadness without being able to cry, externalize or share it.
Maybe you felt a great helplessness because of a situation that you thought was unfair but you did not know how to identify your anger because of a disappointment, you did not show your joy for fear of doing something wrong. wrong or you just had the feeling that you didn’t know how you were feeling, what you wanted or where you were going …
You have kept everything within you, you have accepted this venom just as a person keeps a treasure.
Whatever the situation or the experience, you did not know or you could not fully express yourself, and you repressed your emotions.
Holding on to your emotions generates a weight that forms a dangerous and difficult to bear emotional load, which sometimes has repercussions on our body.
We need to deepen
If we stop discovering and experiencing what we are feeling, whether consciously or unconsciously, we stop being connected to ourselves.
Emotions are necessary and it helps to feel them. It is very important to allow yourself to feel them because they represent the bridge that allows us to know ourselves and to know what we need.
However, we were taught from childhood to suppress them, seeing them as dangerous. This is why we find it normal to deny or control them.
Thus, we learn from childhood to stop feeling them and we send them back to our unconscious.
But the emotions, if they are not expressed, they remain in our interior in a certain way, invading us silently.
The problem is that the trapped emotions can transform into a way of being or facing life, then establishing the emotional blockage of the adult as something normal and forming protective measures against feeling pain.
Thus, we bear emotional loads with a lot of unrecognized and unloaded pain, blocking our real needs and replacing them with false needs. We do not allow ourselves to grow and flourish since we limit ourselves.
We disconnect from what we feel and take responsibility for it, turning a deaf ear to our inner voice, and automatically living on the surface of things.
Even though feeling your emotions can be scary, that we have difficulty expressing what is really happening or that we do not want to suffer, it is still fundamental to do it in order to be healthy.
When we don’t recognize our wounds, we live anesthetized, as if we are asleep, because our emotions are energy and if we don’t express it we lose it.
When faced with situations of particular importance, it is good to ask ourselves how we feel and to reflect for a few minutes, with total sincerity towards ourselves.
It is necessary to accept our full range of emotions to live a fulfilling life, but being careful not to express them in extreme ways. The secret is in the balance, the midpoint.
It is not so much about the degree of expression that we use, but about the greater or lesser awareness of the fact that our emotions function as indicators or alarms of what is happening inside us.
