I Am This Woman Who Does Not Need To Demonstrate Anything To Anyone

I am a woman who does not need to demonstrate anything to anyone. It’s been a long time since I stopped wanting to please, justifying myself in the face of deaf ears, moving mountains for those who didn’t even give me their respect.

I am everything you see: frankness, wholeness, courage and dignity.

These ideas sum up what we know as personal achievement very well.

These are small daily challenges to be solved in order to finally get rid of all those “onion layers” that have taken us away not only from our happiness but also from the opportunities that would have allowed us to achieve a dream. An objective.

I find myself at this stage of life where in order to offend me, you have to import me. I no longer give explanations to those who have blocked ears and cold hearts.

I am a woman without a mask and a humble soul who does not need to show anything to anyone.

There are many women who strive for this personal achievement every day, even if it is difficult to obtain.

Facts like unequal pay, discrimination at work and even having to deal with phrases like “ you can’t, you don’t know, you don’t owe” from relatives or spouse fact that they must fight a double battle.

The outer and most intimate battle: the emotional, the psychological …

The continued need to have to demonstrate things in order to feel “legitimate”

Love has to be “validated” every day, without a doubt, but sometimes we fall into situations where tenderness almost becomes extortion.

Of course, this can happen in both genders in the same way, but it is more common for women to be forced to demonstrate that they are capable of doing anything for their spouse, namely putting aside their needs and wants for obey the expectations of others.

We need to be good girls to our parents, to our families, even if they have betrayed or discouraged us at one time, or even whenever we skip a step or conjure up a dream.

Their response, systematic: “it’s not for you”. We nodded for a long time and even offered them smiles when what we felt was just desperation.

Even so, there is always a day when we open our eyes, when we turn on that inner light that connects directly to our emotions and that says “Stop”.

It is then that we realize that the only person to whom we have to demonstrate something is not others, it is ourselves.

Because when we are able to connect with our needs, the world begins to turn to the sound of new, sweet music, much prettier. 

Get rid of yourself

When we find ourselves with ourselves after these times of personal complexity, we are no longer the same person.

We are no longer that little girl with the eyes full of dreams who drew her initials in the sky.

You are not that teenager who yearned for romantic love, either. You are no longer that young woman who confuses being happy with making others happy.

I am all you see, without magic or tricks. If you don’t like me, it’s the same. I don’t live to please others.

When you have found yourself, you will realize all the things that were plaguing you, the artifices, the mental noise and all those obsolete relationships that tore feathers from your wings.

To be that woman who no longer needs to demonstrate to anyone what she is capable of, it is necessary to put into practice the following dimensions.

Keys for personal achievement

You should know that we cannot be “complete people” if we stay on the margins of others.

Each of us has very important social and emotional compromises: work, couple, family. Is it possible to aspire to this personal realization by combining all these spheres? 

• Personal fulfillment is precisely in the need that all our spheres, the professional, the emotional and the personal offer us the maximum of plenitude and balance. We need harmony.

• If we are obliged to demonstrate certain things every day, in order to be “legitimate” as a person in each of our contexts, it is because something is not right.

The person who always questions our abilities at work or a spouse who asks us for example that we stay at home to show him how much we love him are people who will inevitably end up seriously impairing our self-esteem.

• We have to understand that before we can demonstrate anything to someone, we have to demonstrate it to ourselves. Do not seek complacency or approval in others or they will impose themselves as judges and tormentors, as the architects of a path that you should build yourself.

The eternal urge to demonstrate something that we are not or to seek the complacency of others is nothing more than a slow torture that may never end.

Don’t allow it, be genuine, always be yourself and don’t negotiate your “pseudo-integrity” at the cost of losing happiness.