Giving Without Receiving Anything In Return Is Not Always Positive
Giving without expecting anything in return is one of the tips that we have been repeatedly told since we were children. Being generous with others generates well-being in you and allows you to feel good about yourself. But, what happens when you always give and get nothing in return? In that case, you might just feel like an idiot being used.
“It is as important to give as it is to receive. Without balance, nothing can last very long ”
-Integral coaching-
Giving consistently can be devastating in every way. And that is not positive for you. You too have the right to receive. Even if it is only a tiny part of what you gave. Because if not, sooner or later you will end up getting tired of this situation, and you might go for the farthest position and turn into a selfish person.
Give to people who deserve it
There is no point looking for studies that prove that people who give their all to others are happier. Think, for example, of people who work for an NGO, or who do voluntary work with animals. These people feel good, their life has meaning and happiness floods them.
But, as we’ve said before, giving can be devastating. Therefore, it is necessary to make sure that people deserve what we bring them. Remember, if you are giving love, it is right to receive it in return. You are not in this world to meet the needs of others. You too have your needs and others should take them into account.
Give to people who deserve it
Now you may be more sure how to deal with all of this. You will be more careful, a little more selfish. But, don’t be fooled. It does not mean that you will start to receive every time you give, because otherwise this wonderful act will lose all its meaning.
The best people suffer because they are always there giving everything without asking for anything in return. Unfortunately, this is something that no one sees.
You just have to try and give yourself to the people who are important to you. Because even if we refuse to accept it, there are many people who in good or bad faith can harm us. Giving, sometimes, can make us weak in the face of these kinds of people who will catch us in their nets and never let us out. No one is immune from manipulation. This is why it is important to give, but to the one who truly deserves it.
If you need a much clearer example of how giving can turn into negative, we’re bringing you the realities of dating. What happens when one of them gives and the other just receives? The relationship will not continue, because for that it takes two. It will be the more generous of the two who will suffer and end up humiliated because they receive nothing in return.
Be aware of what you deserve
We all go through difficult circumstances which can cause our self-esteem to be at an all-time low. This is when our self-esteem begins to deteriorate, and to cause problems with ourselves. We don’t love ourselves like we used to, we don’t value ourselves and we are content with little.
It is important that you know what you are worth so that you know what you really deserve. If you don’t love yourself, you will end up leaving your happiness and self-esteem in the hands of others. So they will do you great harm and it will only make your situation worse. This is not what we want!
It doesn’t matter if they are parents, friends, your partner or your boss. None of them has the power to use you unless you allow it. You don’t have to act like you’re a saint, or always show your best smile. You too are suffering and have your problems, you too need to receive.
It is a wonderful feeling to give without receiving anything in return. But sometimes it is necessary to also receive without asking.
Think about yourself
Have you ever given your all for someone who has finally left you? How many follies have you done for someone who ended up disappointing you? If you have never been through such a situation, you may one day experience it or have experienced it before. In each of them, there is a common factor: disappointment with the other.
Opening your eyes is difficult. But it is very often essential to think of ourselves before thinking of others. Always protect yourself from this situation which can cause you unnecessary pain. Observe and be aware of who is truly 100% worthy of yourselves. It is true that we can all be wrong, but don’t let it happen again. The one who will pay the consequences will be you.
