Those Times When Everything Happens When We Stop Looking

They are called magical moments or “click” moments. It’s all those times when, all of a sudden, everything we dreamed of, everything we were looking for and hoping for so much actually happens, hugging us around the corner or showing up in our email inbox … Just when we had stopped. to seek, fate offers us an unexpected gift.

In an unpredictable and sometimes chaotic and complex world like a labyrinth with no way out, the “click” moments are more numerous than we think. Some relate these facts to the alluring science of ‘luck’, but in reality the genuine experts on this subject know that these unforeseen events, in which desires turn into reality and we are touched by the magic wand of opportunity, hide a small part of science and a large part of psychology.

“Luck favors only prepared minds.”

-Isaac Asimov-

To give an example of this same fact, we have a very interesting book. In “The Medici Effect” by Frans Johansson, we are told how, sometimes, it is not enough to be an expert in a field to be successful. In fact, focusing all of our persistence, time and energy on a single goal doesn’t guarantee us 100% of achieving it either. Sometimes you have to take a step back, consider other perspectives, and follow less linear and more creative, quiet, patient and original thinking  to achieve a goal.

We also cannot forget an equally interesting thing:  from time to time the most unexpected actions are guided by our subconscious. It is precisely when our conscious, rigid, sometimes obsessive and always analytical mind establishes a certain distance that this sixth sense awakens; and, believe it or not, this one hardly ever gets it wrong.

We suggest that you reflect on this point.

Even if you stop looking, your mind remains receptive

Andrea has a small business and the business is not very good anymore. She knows that her bakery is no longer profitable and that she will have to close it in a few months. She has been thinking for weeks about what she can do, but between the pressure, the anxiety and the sadness to close this family business, tears start to stream down her face. She feels exhausted. However, one fine morning, she ended up getting up feeling much calmer, saying to herself “let’s just let it happen and we’ll see what happens” .

She took a shower feeling very pleasant calm and incredible mental peace. While she was showering, a notification from one of her social networks popped up. While picking up her phone, Andrea suddenly had an idea: to transport her business to the online market, advertise her pastry on the networks and create refined pastries and cakes for parties and events.

This is a simple example to illustrate how our mind works when we stop pressuring it  and how its receptivity intensifies when we move it away from the forest of preoccupations and the cloud. fears. However, in this classic concept of “moment click” research, another equally interesting dimension has applied that is worth investigating:  intersectional thinking. 

Intersectional thinking

As people, we have a very common habit of trying to predict what might happen if we do this or that. This often forces us to create in our mind real Excel documents where we line up columns, analyze data, relate variables and make exhaustive, sometimes fatalistic prognoses.

Instead of using this left hemisphere so linear and analytical, it will be much more useful for us to apply intersectional thinking, which is characterized by the following points:

• To be able to make connections between stimuli and information that have nothing to do with each other.

• The person who is good at intersectional thinking is able to find calm in the midst of chaos.
• In the midst of this mental palace of peace and poise, the person who uses this point of view is able to connect with everything around him because he remains open, because he is receptive and curious, because she likes to “play” with all the information she receives, trying, undoing, inventing and transforming…

Thus, this type of profile  does not insist on looking for a single solution, a single way out or answer to its problems. Most of the time, she lets herself be carried away by what is happening around her and accepts whatever may happen …

Luck, in the end, is knowing how to recognize opportunities

In order to be lucky in life, the right circumstances are the ones that need to happen. However, for these circumstances to materialize in front of us, our brain must lead us to these points and must know how to recognize opportunities where others see only a closed door.

The best chance there is is the chance to do something for yourself.

-Douglas MacArthur-

With all these elements, we want to highlight one aspect:  luck has nothing to do with magic, chances exist but they are very often “chances” prepared by this exceptional and wonderful organ  which we should trust more. . It is only when we remove from our mind the trap of anxieties, negative attitudes, fears and obsessions that it expands and transforms; the whole brain begins to function 100% allowing us to be receptive, giving us the opportunity to listen to that inner, wise voice which very often guides us to the real opportunities.

Therefore, rather than focusing on obsessively searching for that concrete point that we so desire, let’s  learn to be more receptive, to see the world from the sky and not from a small keyhole.

Images of Ben Giles