Seeking Love Is About Finding Yourself
Many women look for love in their life, but ignore that love comes first from loving yourself. Seeking love involves first finding yourself. It is around this idea that the book Hambre de Amor (“ Hunger for love” ) by Ana Moreno revolves and we will therefore address this subject here.
Woman to woman, I ask you: why do you need to have a spouse? To complete a part of yourself that you miss, to fill an inner void, because you are afraid of being alone, because you feel helpless alone? If you haven’t figured it out yet, know one thing: Having a partner isn’t going to solve any of these problems, and even make them worse.
Starting such a relationship, from co-dependence, only leads to sentimental failure. It is only from a conscious relationship that it is possible to have a healthy married life.
True love is born inside of you
Women need to feel loved. But true love is born inside of us. A woman who loves herself radiates love and receives love. Think that you can’t attract something into your life that you don’t have.
If you do not feel that you are love, you will need a person who completes you, but in this need you will try to possess the other, because without him you will feel that you are nothing. It is a selfish way of acting. And love and selfishness are not compatible concepts.
There is something even more important to consider: Likewise, you cannot attract love if you do not have love within you. So you will attract what you have within yourself to offer. If you insist on appearing what you are not, you will not find a genuine person. If you don’t show true love and respect for yourself, you’ll meet someone who doesn’t love or respect themselves, but who won’t love and respect you either.
It’s never too late to discover yourself
Whether you haven’t found a partner yet or are unhappy with the relationship you have, it’s never too late to find yourself, to start cultivating it on the inside, instead of looking for love. For Ana Moreno, it is very easy to act with love, with honesty and esteem, by sharing yourself with others, by giving yourself to others.
When you understand love, you understand that you don’t need anyone to feel fulfilled. That we do not depend on external love, on the same way others see us and how they react according to their needs and their addictions. All of this involves performing an important exercise in self-esteem, personal achievement, and the pursuit of personal values, because you can only love yourself when you know who you are.
You don’t need anyone to complete you
You are self-sufficient, you don’t need anyone who complements you. Your partner can help you be better than you are, to come out the best in yourself. Then you can start a joint life project, you can grow together. But if you depend on your spouse and / or vice versa, you are doomed to pull each other down.
Love will not come into your life from someone’s hand, but you will attract it when it comes from yourself.
Knowing yourself enough to create love in your life will prevent you from wasting energy on such unnecessary actions as living trying to please others or acting on the desires and aspirations of others. Acting while trying to be someone else doesn’t make either you or the other happy, even if you feel like it. Know that if your priority is to make the other happy, without thinking about your real needs, you will always feel empty and incomplete.
